I will preface this post...Ryan is an amazing father & is way more hands-on than a lot of dads I know. He changes all of Henry's poopy diapers, wakes up with him at night, loves playing with him...I could go on.
But I will say it again...I think dads have it easier. At least their minds have it easier :)
With that being said...my mind is ALWAYS thinking about and asking myself questions about Henry.
What is Henry going to have for breakfast? Is it balanced enough? Are his knees going to get sore from crawling if I don't put pants on him for daycare? How long is he going to nap today? Are those boogers coming out of his nose too green? Did I brush his top teeth enough this morning? What should I make him for dinner? Is he supposed to be eating this? When is his next dr appt? Did I forget to take him in for that blood test [yes to that one!]? Will his skin get too dry if we give him another bath tonight? Why are his ears always so waxy? Didn't I just clean them yesterday? Will he get too hot in these pj's? Does he like the feel of covers on his feet without socks?
You get the idea.
I am 99.9% sure Ryan has none of these thoughts. Is it because he doesn't care? Not at all. I think about all of it all the time...and he knows it. He knows I will take care of what needs to be done. I like the roles that we have but for just one day [maybe even 2] I would LOVE LOVE LOVE for my mind to be able to shut off all things Henry and just relax. Now I know I say this in one breath and the next there is no way I could leave all the decisions and such to Ryan...not because he couldn't handle it or doing it correctly but because it's my role. I'm his mom and it's my job to worry and question just about everything. But it sure would be nice to have a full 24 hours where my mind could wander to things other than the color of baby boogers...
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It totally must be a 'mom' thing. I find myself worrying about the same things...all.the.time.
I can only think it's always going to be this way.
It is so true. I wish my DH even considered some of these things some days so that I wouldn't have to be the constant worrier.
Could not agree more!
I agree completely!
You said it perfectly. When we go out to eat, I always have to sit next to her, keep her occupied till the food comes, cut it up in small pieces, worry about meltdowns and thrown food meanwhile my husband just sits there casually enjoying his food not worried about anything. I wish there was an off switch in my mind or an on switch in his.
I think you're so right...its hard sometimes for me to remember things for myself because my thoughts are always on the things that need to be done for Liv!
preach it, girl!!!
I don't have kids, so I can't comment with great authority, but it does seem that dad's have it easier! And you're right about "their minds have it easier". I don't understand how they can just "turn it off" and not think/stress/worry about things....
Either it gets easier or I'm off. I thought about stuff like that when I had my first but I didn't fret too much. Now that my third is 15 months old, I don't have to think about it anymore, I just know it - and so will you! :)
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